How do you get the person to change?

It’s the most common question I’m asked. And in reality, I don’t change the child at all, but I find ways to show the person what’s going on when they are facing their challenge. I use a whole toolbox of different modalities and techniques to give the person an understanding of their own feelings, actions and beliefs. We often draw incorrect conclusions about things that happen to us, and these mis-beliefs form the basis of our behaviour and emotions. You have probably tried to persuade your child yourself that some of these things aren’t true. I am sure you’ve heard “The teacher doesn’t like me.” “I’m dumb.” “Nobody likes me.” “everyone else can do it.”

I use many techniques from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) which, simply put, enables us to change how we think, behave and feel.

What exactly is NLP?

Neuro Linguistic Programming is method of understanding how we think, what we feel and how we process our experiences. It provides techniques to interrupt and examine what’s going on internally and to enable us to intervene and make changes within.

Why is it called NLP?

Neuro: how we process out thoughts through our senses –visual, auditory, kinesthetic, smell and taste. Linguistic: the language we use to communicate with ourselves and others. Programming: the pattern of thoughts and actions we have set up to function in our daily lives. (It’s not about ‘being programmed.’)

What about children who don’t talk much?

Even though children may not be able to explain how they are feeling, their actions and behaviours give you a pretty clear picture. They often don’t know what’s caused the problem, and questions just get a one-word answer. I use techniques from art therapy and colour psychology to provide the insights on what the person is feeling.

Getting the best out of school

Sometimes it hard to know the best way to help your child and get the best for them from their school. When problems appear, children can become isolated from school, friends, schoolwork and the family. There are many good things on offer at school, but if your child (and you) feel you have become disconnected, then school can become a very negative experience for your child and the whole family.

Parents can be mystified by how their child’s school operates. Sometimes all you want is to be able to confidentially ask questions from someone neutral who knows the system.

My teaching career has encompassed many roles from Principal, SeNCO, classroom teacher Year 1-10, Literacy Leader, as well as training  teachers internationally in Literacy.  I have worked closely with RTLB and Educational Psychologists, and had the opportunity to study different methodologies.

In my work with individual children and their families, it’s a huge bonus to have this experience of the school system to draw on. I can help you with your child and give you different perspectives on what to expect from the school system and how to work with it, so that you and your child get the best outcomes.